The Solution...
(relationship discussions & advice with Columnist Lady Lucille)
It's Just My Opinion...
The question: How Does He Really Feel? This is the question that women have pondered for ages. Women are creatures who love emotionally. Unfortunately for us, that emotion is not often reciprocated through the objects of our affection. While men posses emotions, theirs can be more difficult to interpret than a woman's. As women, we tend to love more directly ie. if we say we love him, we are capable of expressing that love more openly than he may be prepared to reciprocate. When it comes to matters of the heart, typically there is not question as to where a women's heart lies. While both the intentions, as well as, the emotional resolve of a man may remain a mystery to the woman who occupies his heart.
Two great films that have addressed this very topic are "He's Just Not That Into You" starring a slew of characters to include: Ginnifer Goodwin and Justin Long. The other "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past" starring Mathew McConaughey and Jennifer Garner. These films tackle the same topic but from different perspectives that ironically end with the same results.
In the film "He's Just Not That Into You" the hunt for the answer to the age old question is coming from the character of Gigi, played by Ginnifer Goodwin. Gigi is on a quest for a meaningful relationship. After a date with a guy, that she is hoping is "the one", Gigi meets "Mr. Right's" friend Alex, played by Justin Long, who enlightens her to the games that guys play. Well while she is on this journey to enlightenment, the two become good friends. While on this journey to enlightenment, the two become very good friends. Unbeknown to him, Alex finds himself attracted to Gigi. Now it is he who seeks a meaningful relationship with her. All the while, Gigi's potential "Mr Right" had his sights set on someone else. Therefore her efforts to get his attention were in vain. While a great story line indeed, the biggest piece of eye opening information for a woman is this: If you are working too hard to get a man's attention, someone else already has it.
Now the film, "Ghosts of Girlfriends Past" the same male agenda from a different angle. In this particular film, the story is told from the male perspective. Mathew McConaughey plays the part of Connor Meed, a true playboy. To create substance, the film tells the story on how he became to be such a "player". Connor, the breaker of many hearts, gave his heart to a girl at a young age. That girl, Jenny Perotti played by Jennifer Garner, was unaware of his feelings for her. As a result, Jenny breaks his heart unintentionally, and he never recovers. Sadly, in their adult years, Conner returns the favor to her. This film is the prime example of a woman holding the key to a man's heart but remaining totally aloof to it. Not for the lack of desire, but rather because of his failure to communicate along with the games he played. The news flash in this film is for guys to be honest about the way you feel. Though you may bed many women, you will still be lonely if there is no one who means something in your life.
The cat and mouse games that men and women play are as old as the human race. But ladies, is a man truly cares about you, he will show you with one of 3 pro's. PROfess, PROtect, and PROvide. If he loves you, he will show you all 3. For those of you who value your time and energy, check for the 3 pro's and skip the emotional game playing. You will be happier for it in the end.
Lady Lucille*The contect of "The Solution" are not necessarily the thought and opinions of Ambiance Special events. Nor that of its employees and/or affiliates.*
First Dance Friday 
Today's DIY is a resource recommendation and inspirational guide on how to craft just about anything. It is the must have book for any crafting or aspiring craft guru. It's none other than Martha Stewart's Encyclopedia of Crafts. It is said to be an A to Z guide on crafting projects with detailed instructions. You can find it at your local book store or of book seller website, like Amazon.com. 
You can find it at your local bookstores or on book sellers websites like Amazon.com. Expect a new copy to be between 25-35 dollars or pre-owned for $11 and up. New or Used this book is the proclaimed bible for crafters everywhere. Happy Crafting!
Posts
