3 Reasons You Hate Wedding Planning

I overhear stories all the time of people loathing the wedding planning process. Overhear? Oh yes, you never know who is at the table beside you at Starbucks or shopping the aisle with you at Hobby Lobby. I will be the first to admit it, wedding planning isn't for everyone. Some people really just don't care about the nit picky details of it all.

Whether financial reasons or because you really didn't think you would need help, you've championed the cause to plan your own wedding! Only to find out that you don't enjoy spending all of your free time researching, waiting for vendors to call back, or second guessing whether or not you're getting a good deal. It can be flat out exhausting; if you don't have a solid plan.

While the internet is full of checklists and to-do's at your disposal; it doesn't mean a thing if you aren't doing these three tips #ambianceadores. Here are our top 3 reasons, why you hate wedding planning.

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1. You aren't asking for help. I definitely promote limiting the amount of people involved with the intimate details of your wedding. Although some will be honored you ask for their assistance, they can often overstep and think they have more say than your stress levels can handle. On the other hand, you have to use your trusted support group, starting with your finance. If you are really overwhelmed or stuck in a rut, ask a professional for a consultation to assist you with a specific task(s). It could make all the difference in saving your sanity. As the old saying goes, sometimes you have not because you ask not.

2. You aren't planning in downtime. Seriously, you can take a break. No one plans 24/7, myself included. You know your schedule, take a night off, a weekend, hell, take a whole week. Calculated and scheduled downtime is critical to balancing your wedding/life balance. Working towards a little time off can also be the best drive for you to accomplish wedding goals and reward yourself with...well...anything other than wedding plans. Consider making a plan for No Wedding Wednesdays at home or one weekend a month. I am certain the people around you will also appreciate it. And you are likely to feel less anxious and come back to your plans rejuvenated and with fresh eyes and ideas.

3. You don't have a finish line. I tell my clients all the time, we have to start with a finish. Contrary to popular belief, wedding day is not your finish line. I repeat, do not fall into wedding day. You will want to plan to finish 1-2 weeks early. If you have a few last minute tasks to complete or decisions to make, no big deal. But when you don't plan to cut yourself off, watch your final to-do list grow and grow. At a minimum, I advise planning to enjoy the last 3-4 days of weeding week. You want to feel refreshed and ready to great guests arriving a day or two early to spend time. I guarantee, if you feel like a chicken with its head cut off, you look like it too.

Simply put, don't be "that" bride. Don't be the bride that can't enjoy your plans because you have NO chance of actually finishing the impossible to-do list filled with tasks that either don't really matter to you or don't make or break your wedding day experience.